Guarding the Heart’s Borders

A Journey through Boundaries

Dear Adventurers,

Thank you for being part of this bookish journey. Whether you're a longtime follower, a new subscriber, or a silent shadow reader, your presence here means the world to me. I. Thank. You.

Together, we’ve traveled through the warmth of compassion, unmasked beliefs that held us back, and braved the darkness of past hurts to find the light that forgiveness offers. Each step has strengthened us, but our journey is far from over. So, I ask you—are you ready for our next awfully big adventure?

BOUNDARIES!

Perhaps this feels like we’ve run into an unexpected wall, much like the hobbits encountering the edge of the Old Forest. But here’s where boundaries are more like the protective walls of Rivendell—a place that defines its limits for the safety of all inside, not as a restriction but as a safeguard. Boundaries aren’t about pushing others away but creating guidelines that keep us grounded and well. Just like the borders of the Shire, they mark our “safe haven,” helping us protect what matters most- our inner peace.

According to the Harvard Business Review, “Boundaries are limits we identify for ourselves and apply through action or communication. When we define what we need to feel secure and healthy and create tools to protect those parts of ourselves, we can do wonders for our well-being at work and at home—which, in turn, allows us to bring our best selves to both places.”

Boundaries come in all shapes and sizes—some are as strong as the gates of Helm’s Deep, while others are softer, more flexible, like the gentle currents of the Anduin. We’ll explore them all as we adventure through some of life’s most meaningful connections. Here’s a sneak peek of what lies ahead:

• Boundaries in Friendship: How do we create boundaries with friends to keep these connections meaningful and true?

• Boundaries in Family: How do we honor ourselves within the closeness of family ties?

• Boundaries in Romance: How do we set a safe space where love can grow without losing ourselves?

• Boundaries in Professional Life: How do we set limits that allow us to thrive and avoid burnout?

But as Frodo discovered, the first journey is always inward. Before we set boundaries with others, we must learn to set them with ourselves. Every adventure begins within, and boundaries are no different. Think of this as your own internal map, guiding you to healthier and more intentional connections.

Are you packed for the journey? Take a moment to reflect on the questions below as you prepare to explore boundaries in our next adventure with the Shire Bonsai Network:

• Are there places in your life where you feel boundaries may need strengthening?

• When have you felt that someone has crossed a boundary of yours, and how did it impact you?

• In what ways could setting clearer boundaries enhance your relationships, your peace, and your power?

Let’s set off together—into the wild, into the wisdom of boundaries, and beyond. We’ll read, dream, and discover as one, joining strength from one another, like the fellowship itself.

Here’s to growth, wisdom, and the journey ahead.

Much Love, Jae